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REMAIN: How To Find God During Loss

Kelley Johnson • March 13, 2025

The power of connection and stillness in the midst of grief and loss.

In the busyness of life, we often find ourselves rushing from one task to another, rarely taking time to simply be still and remain in God's presence. The concept of "remaining" as found in John 15 offers a profound invitation to deeper intimacy with Christ that transforms every area of our lives.


Episode 14 of "In the Flow" explores this theme through honest conversations between me and my Besties, Stephanie Blakely and Trina Jones, alongside professional counselors Aspen Hazel and Joy Martin. Our discussion reveals how remaining rooted in Christ sustains us through life's inevitable interruptions and challenges, including loss and grief.


When we examine the letter "I" in the word "remain," we discover three powerful concepts that shape our spiritual journey: Intimacy, Identity, and Invitation. The friends who are flowing with us this season share personal experiences of how remaining connected to God through difficult times transformed not just their circumstances, but their very understanding of who they are. Stephanie's journey through grief after losing her mother illustrates how remaining at the feet of Jesus provided strength when nothing else could. The profound loss became a pathway to deeper connection with God as Father, filling the gaps that earthly parents could no longer fill.


One of the most striking insights from the episode centers on how our identity becomes established through remaining connected to Christ. As Aspen beautifully expressed, "For some reason, because of my story, we've been through a lot of life at a young age... I've seen how God has filled in the gaps when our earthly parents have not been physically here, how God has provided for us, how he has taken care of us, how he has not forsaken us." This testimony speaks to God's faithfulness to care for the fatherless and orphans, fulfilling His promises in the midst of profound grief.


The conversation extends beyond personal spiritual practice to how remaining in Christ equips us to be present for others in their moments of need. Whether through professional counseling or simple acts of kindness, we share stories of connecting with strangers and clients in transformative ways. One counselor described the privilege of creating safe spaces where people can be "fully heard, fully attuned to," often for the first time in their lives. I also share a moving story of helping a distressed young woman with a flat tire, demonstrating how attunement to the Holy Spirit's prompting allows us to show Christ's love without necessarily speaking His name.


Perhaps the most practical application comes in understanding that often, people don't need us to fix their problems or offer profound advice. Rather, they need someone who will remain with them in their pain, someone who sees them and acknowledges their struggle. This practice of presence mirrors Christ's own incarnational ministry - He didn't just send instructions from heaven; He came to dwell among us. Similarly, we are called to dwell with others in their moments of need, remaining steadfast in our commitment to show up and be present.


In a world of constant motion and noise, the discipline of remaining may be the most countercultural and transformative practice we can embrace. This season, I am inviting you to a deeper level of practicing stillness, asking the Holy Spirit what He wants to say in this moment. This invitation to pause and listen exemplifies the very essence of remaining - creating space to hear God's voice and receive His direction. To help you on your journey, be sure to take advantage of this season's free guide to practicing stillness. In it, you'll find practical suggestions on how you can integrate stillness into your daily routine.

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